Things are the way they ought to be

If you are thinking something painful, try thinking:
This is the way it ought to be.
Then maybe:
(I am) one hundred percent responsible.
I used this alone, and with the Emotional Freedom Technique with good results.
If I look inside, I will find a scary feeling or image, and I will think "asking for help", which is pretty much a prayer to the Universe. Then the image changes, and I go back to "one hundred percent responsible." The image changes again, and sometimes it turns into a sense of pure fear. Directing the feeling of taking responsibility toward the fear works immediately.