Upper Limits Problem

Gay Hendricks described the Upper Limits Problem
in his books, including The Big Leap.
Things are getting better in your life,
you notice this, and then you get surprised
by negative things, the opposite of serendipity.
The idea is that you have an inner thermostat of
happiness, and you have pushed your life over an
unconscious line, tripping a switch, so the director,
you, of the movie you are in, that is, your life, is
trying to make your life fit into some emotional boundaries
that you have developed in the past, that you are barely,
if at all, aware of.  People may also have lower limits,
when they know when they are uncomfortable about
something because things are so bad.  But what if things
are too good?  There's a reason people stay in ruts.
So what do you do?
Gay Hendricks says to breathe,
move, literally stretching yourself,
and love yourself for being less than perfect:
emotionally take care of yourself,
cherish or cuddle yourself
in your mind.
When he then said to love your fears, I didn't quite get it,
but it led me to the idea of seeing my fears as useful.
I look at scary feelings, such as anger, or hate, or something else,
without judgement, then, as I see the fear behind them, I
look at the fear with the idea that it's useful (not dangerous).
This allows the feelings to resolve a little bit each time I do it.
Desiree Stafford, who made a youtube talk about it,
says to be aware of what is going on in your feelings
when you are experiencing success, and ask if your feelings are
positive when your life is appearing positive.  Ask:  what
am I afraid of?  The way I do this kind of thing is in a feelings log
(this idea is from Barbara Sher's book, Live the Life You Love).
I write, e.g., I am afraid of being loved, because I am afraid it means 
I will be rejected.  Writing it down helps me finish the
sentence, and I feel like I expressed the feeling, instead
of bottling it up.
Gay Hendricks also mentioned in another youtube clip
that this inner limitation may be caused by feeling as a
child that you shouldn't outshine someone else in your
family, that someone wants you to make yourself small
for someone else's sake.

Gay Hendricks interview (radio ad break from 12:44 to 14:00)